BEHAVIOR… YOU HAVE TO TEACH IT...
“If a child doesn’t know how to read, we teach.”
“If a child doesn’t know how to swim, we teach.”
“If a child doesn’t know how to drive, we teach.”
“If a child doesn’t know how to behave, we …teach? …punish?”
John Herner, Counterpoint (1998)
Help misbehaving children to learn new and better ways
-Interact respectfully with misbehaving youngsters. Treat them as you would like
to be treated. Help them to do better. Be a guide, not a boss. Be the type of
teacher you remember fondly from your school days.
-Talk TO them, not AT them
-Keep your voice at a conversational level, even when you're perturbed
-Avoid giving lectures about life
-Exhibit the self control you wish for them to show
-Never do anything to them that you wouldn't want done to you
-Separate the behavior from the kid. Like the child, dislike the behavior.
-In an incident, don't just find fault, identify what was OK and what wasn't (some %
of positive). For example: "Fran, it was noble of you to stand up for your friend.
Being a loyal friend is important. However, I can't allow you to hit others. How
else could you have handled the situation?"
-Seek win-win solutions. Look for solutions to problems that don't find blame or punish.
-Help the youngster to display more acceptable behavior:
-teach it, role-play it, remind him/her to demonstrate it, reward it, and encourage more of it.
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